Relationships

Unless a person is dead, when in contact with someone of the opposite
sex, he/she will have feelings that manifest themselves. Those
feelings does not necessarily mean that you want to have a serious
relationship with that person. You need to ask yourself what it is
that you need in your life at this time. Your body may say one thing
while your mind says another. It is my guess that the physical
closeness of a woman is what you need. It sounds to me like you are
not ready mentally and emotionally for a serious relationship. It
would not be fair to yourself and to your significant other to enter
into a serious relationship at this time. You chance "shipwrecking"
the relationship and becoming angrier and biter then after your
divorce. Relax and enjoy the single life. Take time to smell the
roses. Get into sports. Travel. Find new friends and hobbies. Explore
life. Why must people rush to enter relationships? It it's so
wonderful, there would be no need for this internet site.

since men live with women they should care how women perceive porn.  If the original thread asked men how they feel, and if a woman responded, that's okay too.   If it is so innocent or so necessary then it is up to men to make women understand why.  Men need to understand where women are coming from when they feel bad about themselves or the relationship when a man spends 'too much' time with his porn.  If a man wants to live alone, then porn is a blessing.  If man wants to live in harmony with his  woman then there has to be an understanding, an acceptance and a balance.  Once in a while, fine.   Every free minute they can, too much.  Balance, moderation and compromise is necessary.

I met this girl two years ago. I really love her and I
would love to marry her. But here is my problem:
My family doesn't have a lot of money, my dad is
unemployed and my mum earns just enough to subsist.
I'm currently paying for my brothers' college fees,
and subsidizing on my parents rent.
These expenditures take a big percentage of my net
pay.
My gal friend knows all these. She loves to have fun
and be entertained. I do try to at least take her out
once a month but at a great strain bearing in mind
that I give her 10% of my net pay for her expenses.
She's now telling me that I don't care for her since I
am paying for my brother education and not hers. She
want me to take her to college but I can't afford it.
She wants me to be taking her out more often but I
can't afford. She's saying am spending everything on
my family which is not true. Please advise am not even
married to this gal and sh'e started stressing me!!

hi im a 53 yr old female that lost her boyfriend to a uncensored card
game room. lost him to the women there who dont care what they say
and will take care of a man online. i am heartbroken over this, that
he has rejected me. he is 50 an disabled and so iam i. i wrote,called
him,instant messages, and told these girls that he was lieing to
them. we have been together over 3 yrs off an on i even taught him to
play euchre! he is on probation for slapping me and he is very
jealous to me , then he goes and gets girls that do that an i wasnt
allowed to talk to a guy lol whats wrong with me? he also wanted me
to live with him all the time, which because of my situation i cant
do yet, so that was a problem too. what do you think? I miss him so
much, dont want anything more then a friendly relationship. guess
i'll always be alone

It's totally normal not to have cheated on your spouse even after 7
years. I've never even come close to cheating on my wife since we first
started going out sixteen years ago. Sure, I've enjoyed looking, and ok,
so it's easy for me to have little infatuations here & there, but those
are just little fantasy things in my own head for my own amusement -
nothing compares to the love I continue to have for my wife. 'Why drive
a Yugo when you've got a BMW in the garage' you know? Of course it's
awfully tempting to take a test drive when you spot a nice Jaguar or
Corvette ;)

I didn't mean to imply that it was an easy solution or pick apart the problems and find a brilliant solution. Every solution presents problems of its own. I only meant to point out that this wicked, evil vicious woman whom you say deserves to be shot for what she has done to your brother, has only actually done what your brother allowed her to do. That doesn't mean she's blameless, but it does mean that he was not a helpless victim.

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The desire to lose weight and the determination to somehow figure out how to keep it off (I've lost a zillion pounds in my lifetime; gained back a zillion and two....:^ (
is much like those who are trying to quit smoking, or drinking, or gambling or any of the behavioral ills we humans are so prone to possess. You have got to want to do it for yourself - NOT for someone else. If you don't want to suffer through the diet regimen, then all you'll end up doing is resenting all you've gone through and the individual for whom you suffered.

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Back when I was in the dating scene, I never had a model for whomever I was interested in. Looking back, I see that most of them were tall, had what some may consider small breasts, had dark hair more times than not. This wasn't a conscious thing. It just happened like that.

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Lover - A wikipedia site about lovers
Romnance - romance in love, is it important?

Not only could it be that she wants to feel important, but it could be that she feels unloveable the way she is.  She feels she is not good enough to be with you, or her friends, may it be too uneducated or whatever, so she feels the need to make a story that brings her to a level that she feels is good enough.  Often people like her come from a background where the parents either didn't give a damn and sort of neglected her, or she was always told that she wasn't good enough (you can do better than that... get your act together...etc.)  Let her know that you love her regardless of what she is, as long as you can trust her.  Let her know that it's more important to tell the truth then to look good.  This might not sink in right away and you might catch her trying to appear better than she is on occassion... in a way you can feel honored, I would say... she is trying to make herself look better because she feels you're better..and she's not worthy of you.  It's something you have to continuosly work on with her..it might take a while before she feels comfortable to be who she really is, depending on how long she has played the person she isn't.  You might want to let her know that you started worrying if you should go through with the wedding, not because she isn't what she said she is, but because she lied to you and she should be able to tell you the truth.